Although this endeavor will be different for everyone, this article will contain all kinds of advice. Hopefully everyone can get something out of this 13 steps.
1. Start off by looking at yourself and knowing who you really are and where your interest in life lies. Not in comparison to anyone else, but just look at yourself. Ask yourself these simple questions.
Who am I?
What is my purpose(destiny) in Life?
Where do I currently stand in my life?
What role do I play in others lives?
(Sister, mother, friend, role model,
teacher, partner, etc..)
Am I living to my fullest potential?
Am I happy? Fulfilled? At peace?
Why, or why not?
2. One huge mistake people make in their lives is covering themselves from pain. Hiding from the truth. Denying reality. DEATH exists. Become at peace with that. MURDERS and RAPE and DISEASES happen. Accept it. Once you face the facts that life isn't all rainbows and butterflies, you will be more prepared to handle tough situations, and you won't take disappointment as such a shock.
3. Determine which people in your life are actually worth your care . Eliminate all the fake friends and the users from your list who always pour-out their short-comings in life and expect you to assume responsibility and save them out. It's good to offer a helping hand to those in needs but sometimes people tend to use you as a crouch and end up making poor decisions and always expect you to bail them out. List only those who make you feel happy when you're around them. Now make an effort to spend more time around those people, and relatively less time around the people who do no good for you or your life. It's okay to be a little selfish in this sense every once in a while. Just be sure you give back an equal amount to what you take (and that doesn't only mean physical things, but emotional needs, as well).
4. Look on the dark side . Yes, this isn't a mistake, the DARK side. Because often times, when dealing with personal relationships, looking on the bright side just leads to disappointment when we are let down from what we expect or wish to happen. As the cliche' goes, 'hope for the best, expect the
worst.' Did you know the formula for happiness is Reality divided by Expectations? What it means is don't think you are going to get what you want.
5. Find something you love to do, and do it . Do it often. Simple as that. From my personal experience, I was very fond of following football which I still do but not much often, writing article on them, updating my followers who joined a sports page I was an administrator on, although I loved what I did, I once came to know that what I was once into was not actually what I wanted to do in life. I can confidently say that Sharing the Gospel Of Grace through blogging has given me the Joy I need and even enabled me to discover some hidden potentials in me and now I very happy in this field.
6. Often, change is a good thing. Change they say is always a Choice and you have the responsibility to change or not. Welcome something new into your life, whether it be a new friend, a new interest (separate from the one from the step above), or a new favorite show you watch religiously. Change up your routine a little. There are billions of Gods creation out there waiting for you to take advantage of to make Life worth living.
7. Think back to something you loved in your childhood. Did you once the passion for writing articles? Your love for spending time with your family and friends? Maybe playing make-believe with your friends? Revisit one of those things, and you will most likely recreate the joy it used to bring.
Play and enjoy every precious time of your life with your family and friends, or do something to change the life of those around you. Let a child bring you into their carefree world for a few hours. It could be your little cousin, your own children, or you could babysit and enjoy the world of your childhood days.
8. Always try to see every situation from different perspective. Don't just see things your way, actually take the time to try to see things through the eyes of another. You'll gain insight, which can be enlightening.
9. Blast some music and just dance your heart out. Lose it in the music. Either alone or with friends. Just dance for hours. You'll get a good workout and release those formula
which make you happy. Speaking of music, you can click on this LINK ,to download one of my favorite songs this year by NANA JD - Great Is Your Name. Don't forget to put on your dancing shoes.
10. Try something you've never tried before. Take up a class, or use directionals maps and try to figure it out for yourself. Cooking, painting, whatever. And if you screw up, laugh it off for a secured person is always able to laugh their way out even if things don't go their way.
11. Smile . As often as possible. When you don't even feel like it. Just do it for you look so much better when you smile, So Smile!
12. Stop hiding from your misery . Realize the cause of your negative feelings and attempt to find solutions and ways to overcome it in the near future. If you simply cannot fix it, screw it. Anything that is out of your control is a waste of your time. No longer let it faze you.
13. In the end it comes down to you . Only YOU have the power to allow yourself to be happy.